Subcategory: Types
Kidnapping
Kidnapping role play involves scenarios where one partner "abducts" another who consensually pretends to be unwilling. Participants may incorporate elements such as capture, restraint, interrogation, ransom demands, escape attempts, or Stockholm syndrome dynamics. This type of role play requires thorough negotiation, clear boundaries, and established safewords due to its intense psychological elements.
This is a description of an activity in the BDSM checklist (also known as a 'kink list'). Want to discover what (more) kinks you might have? Maybe share them with a partner? Start the checklist!
About the category Role Play
Role play involves temporarily adopting alternative personas, scenarios, or dynamics that differ from participants' everyday identities. This can range from light character play to elaborate scenarios with costumes, settings, and developed storylines—all within consensual boundaries that allow for exploration of fantasies that might otherwise remain unexpressed.
People enjoy role play for its ability to create psychological distance that enables exploration of desires that might feel too vulnerable directly. Taking on roles allows for experiencing different power dynamics, taboo scenarios, or personal qualities in a contained, consensual context. Many find that the combination of imagination, performance, and erotic focus creates unique opportunities for connection and self-discovery while adding variety and creativity to their intimate experiences.
All activities in the checklist:
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General
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To start with
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Sex & Intimacy
- Kissing mouth (on lips)
- French kissing (with tongue)
- Kissing on body
- Massage
- Petting / Stroking Hair
- Dirty Talk
- Teasing
- Genital Stroking / Rubbing
- Fingering / Hand-jobs
- Oral Sex
- Licking (body)
- Vaginal Toys
- Vaginal Sex
- Anal Toys
- Rimming / Anal Licking
- Prostrate stimulation
- Anal Sex
- Deepthroating
- Squirting
- Breast Sex
- Tantric sex
- Phone sex
- Outdoor sex
- Sexual Body Fluids – on body
- Sexual Body Fluids – Consuming
- Double Penetration – Toys
- Double Penetration – Human
- Triple Penetration – Toys
- Fisting vaginal
- Fisting anal
- Spitting – on body
- Spitting - In mouth
- Threesome - M, M, F
- Threesome - F, F, M
- Threesome - All same gender
- Pegging
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Duration
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- Blindfolds
- Earplugs / Ear-muffs
- Masks
- Belts / Leather Straps
- Chains
- Collars
- Posture Collars
- Stocks/pillory
- Spreader Bars
- Locks
- Hoods
- Gas Masks
- Body Bags / Sleepsacks
- Vacuum Beds
- Chastity Belts / Devices
- Harnesses
- Plastic (Saran) Wrap
- Bandage / Medical Wrap
- Casts
- Single Armbinder
- Bondage Opera Gloves
- Cockrings
- Slings
- Leashes
- Straight Jackets
- Cages / Cells
- Nose Leashes
- Nose Hooks
- Tape Bondage
- Sex Machines – Handheld
- Sex Machines – Stationary
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Areas
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- Nipple Clamps – Adjustable
- Nipple Clamps – Clover
- Nipple Weights
- Canes
- Paddles
- Slappers / Straps
- Crops
- Floggers
- Single Tail Whips
- Cat-O-Nine-Tails
- Dragon Tails
- Clubs
- Violet Wands
- E-Stim Kits
- Labia Clamps
- Genital Weights
- Ball Crushers
- Scrotum Parachutes / Stretchers
- Anal Beads / Balls
- Anal Hook
- Vaginal Hook
- Animal Tail Anal Plugs
- Speculums
- Urethral Sounds
- Bells
- Strap-On Harnesses
- Feathers / Ticklers
- Claws
- Needles
- Wax
- Knives
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- Master/Mistress/slave
- Bedroom Only Control
- Day to Day Control
- 24 Hours a Day/7 Days a Week
- Total Power Exchange
- Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
- Orders
- Chastity
- Kneeling
- Marking
- Begging
- Crawling
- Erotic Dance (Private)
- Erotic Dance (Audience)
- Journal / Blogging Duty
- Body Pose / Position Protocol
- Behavior Restriction
- Eye Contact Restriction
- Sensory deprivation
- Speech Restriction / Protocol
- Harems (serving with others)
- Serving others
- Symbolic Jewellery
- Collar and Leash
- Collar (public)
- Collar (semi-private / events)
- Collar (private)
- Mono/Poly Arrangement
- Obedience
- Honorifics
- Protocols
- Protocols (High)
- Punishment Dynamic
- Reprimands
- Discipline
- Ritual
- Rules
- Training
- Discreet Public Play (less obvious to others)
- Forced Bi-Sexuality
- Being a sex slave
- Slave Positions
- Slave Auctions
- Loaned to Others for Service
- Loaned to Others for Sex
- Being prostituted
- Tattoo/Branding as Sign of Ownership
- Micromanaging
- Micromanaging (Clothing)
- Micromanaging (Food)
- Struggling / Resistance
- Escaping Bondage
- Playing together with other subs
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- Anal Plugs (Public, Under Clothes)
- Face Sitting
- Bathroom Use Control
- Chamber-pot use
- Serving as Toilet
- Genuflecting
- Cuckold Scenes
- Public Humiliation
- Bimbofication
- Blackmail
- Cum Eating
- Emasculation
- Forced Bedwetting
- Forced Nudity
- Forced Masturbation
- Forced Orgasms
- Forced Pants Wetting
- Forced Crossdressing
- Enemas
- Burping
- Poses (Exposure, Embarrassing, etc)
- Animal Play (pet, dog, horse, etc)
- Insults
- Sexual Inadequacy Humiliation
- Removal of Privacy
- Sexual (performance) Humiliation
- Slutty Clothing (Private)
- Slutty Clothing (Public)
- Slut Training
- Small Penis Humiliation
- Verbal Humiliation (Private)
- Verbal Humiliation (Public)
- Watching Bathroom Activities
- Standing in corner
- Sleeping Conditions Chosen
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- Hair Pulling
- Spanking
- Gagging
- Face Slapping
- Biting
- Nipple Torture
- Breast torture w/pins-clips, etc.
- Breast whipping
- Pussy/cunt slapping / whipping
- Genital Torture
- Punching / Beating
- Bruising
- Scratching
- Pinching
- Breath Play
- Choking – Windpipe
- Choking – Arterial
- Smothering
- Water Torture
- Trampling
- Fire Play
- Bastinado (feet torture)
- Abrasion
- Piercing
- Knife Play (non-cutting)
- Cutting
- Electric Play
- Ice / Cold Play
- Hot Wax Play
- Tickling
- Wrestling
- Dilation – Vaginal
- Dilation – Anal
- Verbal Abuse
- Branding
- Tattooing
- Enemas
- Gagging (fingers or similar means)
- Gagging During Oral
- Cupping / Suction
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- Boss / Secretary - (Employee)
- Teacher / Student
- Damsel In Distress
- Kidnapping
- Doctor - Nurse / Patient
- Parent / Child (Ex: Daddy / Daughter)
- Interrogation
- Age Regression
- Adult Baby
- Prison Scenes
- Serving as Maid
- Prostitution / Given Away
- Initiation / Ritual
- Punishment Scenes
- Religious Scenes
- Vampire Scenes
- Rape Scenes
- Puppy Play
- Cat Play
- Pony Play
- Furries
- Cosplay
- Living Doll
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- Leather
- Latex / Rubber
- PVC
- Lingerie
- Feet
- Shoes
- Heels
- Boots
- Gloves
- Smoking
- Oral Fixation
- Uniforms
- Voyeurism
- Watching videos of others
- Corsets
- Medical
- Cross Dressing
- Forced Feminization
- Strap-On Play
- Lolita
- Mature
- Fur
- Lactation
- Food Play
- Menstruation
- Being Recorded
- Exhibitionism
- Fear / Threatening Play
- Crying / Being Brought to Tears
- Abandonment
- Acrotomophilia (amputees)
- Barosmia (smells)
- Shaving
- Shibari
- Erotic Dancing
- Body Modification
- BodyBuilding
- Bukake
- Bestiality
- Examinations (physical)
- Examinations (with instruments)
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- Age Play (Sexual)
- Animal Role Play (Sexual)
- Asphyxiation
- Ball Busting
- Bare-backing
- Blackmail Fantasy
- Blood Play
- Branding
- Breath Control
- Breeding Fantasy
- Castration Fantasy
- Catheters
- CBT (Cock & Ball Torture)
- Choking
- Conditioning (Manipulation)
- Corporal "Punishment"
- Cunt Busting
- Enemas (Cleansing)
- Enemas (Pleasure)
- Enemas (Punishment)
- Enemas (Retention)
- Fear Play
- Fire Play
- Flesh Hook Suspension
- Full Body Beatings
- Gang Bang
- Gas Masks (Air Restriction)
- Genitorture
- Gun Play
- Golden Showers
- Hypnosis
- Inflation/Injections (Saline)
- Interrogations
- Knife Play
- Mind Fucks
- Needle Play
- Ravishment Play (Rape Play)
- Ravishment Play (Group)
- Pursuit & Capture (Public)
- Pursuit & Capture (Kink Camping or Similar)
- Play Piercing
- Pussy Torture
- Resistance Play
- Rough Body Play (Closed Fists)
- Rough Body Play (Kicking)
- Scat
- Sleep Deprivation
- Stress Positions
- Take Down Play
- Tasers/Stun Guns
- Urethral Sounding
- Urine Consumption
- Waterboarding
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Recordings
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About you
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Relevant play info
- Sexual orientation
- Do you use anti-conception? If so which?
- What are your 'safer sex' barrier preferences? (condoms, gloves, etc)
- Do you have any STD's or other infectious/transferable diseases at the moment?
- Date & type of last STD test
- Any relevant medical conditions?
- Any physical or mental limitations?
- Phobias or fears:
- Diet preferences
- Favorite during session / aftercare snacks :)
- Safe Word (verbal)
- Safe Sign (non-verbal)
- Penetration ok
- No hit zone(s), if any
- Marks and bruises ok?
- No marks zone(s), if any
- BDSM-test.org result-link
- FetLife profile link
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Your body
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Words & Phrases
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Context
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