Negative

Negative contexts are specific circumstances, environments, or practical situations that detract from your comfort or enjoyment during intimate or BDSM activities. Identifying these problematic contexts helps partners avoid arranging play in conditions that might create stress or diminish your experience.

When describing negative contexts, consider practical factors that might cause discomfort, such as time pressures (rushed sessions, looming deadlines), environmental issues (too cold/hot, uncomfortable surfaces, poor or bright lighting), privacy concerns (thin walls, potential interruptions, unsecured spaces), physical states (hunger, fatigue, illness), or practical distractions (background noise, notifications, nearby responsibilities). Communicating these contextual boundaries helps ensure play happens in situations where you can fully engage rather than feeling distracted or uncomfortable due to practical circumstances.

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This is a description of an activity in the BDSM checklist (also known as a 'kink list'). Want to discover what (more) kinks you might have? Maybe share them with a partner? Start the checklist!