Category: D/s, Power Play
Subcategory: Power exchange / Protocol

Chastity

Chastity involves the dominant controlling the submissive's sexual release and often includes the use of chastity devices—physical restraints that prevent genital stimulation, masturbation, or intercourse. These devices range from cages for penises to belts or shields for vulvas, and may be worn for hours, days, or even longer periods.

People are drawn to chastity for the intense power exchange focused on sexual control. Submissives often experience heightened arousal and desire through denial, increased focus on pleasing their dominant, and a constant physical reminder of their submission. Dominants enjoy the control over their partner's most intimate bodily functions, the ability to regulate pleasure and frustration, and the submissive's increased attentiveness that often results. This practice combines physical restriction with psychological control, creating a powerful dynamic where sexual release becomes a privilege granted solely at the dominant's discretion.

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About the category D/s, Power Play

Dominance and submission (D/s) and power play revolve around the consensual exchange of control between partners. This dynamic can manifest in countless ways—from bedroom-only scenarios to comprehensive lifestyle arrangements—all centered on one partner taking a controlling role while the other yields authority within negotiated boundaries.

People are drawn to power exchange for diverse reasons: the freedom found in surrender, the thrill of exercising control, the deep trust required, and the opportunity to explore aspects of themselves not expressed in everyday life. Unlike physical BDSM activities which focus on bodily sensations, D/s emphasizes psychological connection and the erotic potential of power differentials, creating experiences that many find deeply fulfilling on both emotional and sexual levels.

About the subcategory Power exchange / Protocol

Power exchange protocols establish formalized patterns of behavior between partners that reinforce and express their D/s dynamic. These may include specific language requirements, postures, rituals, or rules that symbolize and maintain the consensual power differential between participants.

People engage in protocols for the structure and clarity they bring to power exchange relationships. These practices create consistent reminders of roles, deepen the psychological aspects of submission and dominance, and provide a framework for expressing devotion and control. For many practitioners, the mindfulness required to maintain protocols creates a meditative focus that enhances connection and satisfaction beyond what more casual power dynamics might offer.



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