Subcategory: Orgasm / Sexual Control
Duration: potentially unlimited
Duration: potentially unlimited establishes open-ended orgasm control or sexual restrictions without a predetermined endpoint. The controlling partner retains authority to maintain restrictions indefinitely or end them at their discretion, creating a comprehensive power dynamic around sexual release.
Many in committed power exchange relationships value this approach for its complete transfer of sexual autonomy. Without a known endpoint, the controlled partner must fully accept their partner's authority rather than simply enduring until a scheduled release. This arrangement often deepens the power dynamic as both partners recognize the genuine surrender involved. The psychological effects can be profound, creating a persistent awareness of the exchange that influences the entire relationship dynamic rather than remaining limited to specific sexual contexts.
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About the category D/s, Power Play
Dominance and submission (D/s) and power play revolve around the consensual exchange of control between partners. This dynamic can manifest in countless ways—from bedroom-only scenarios to comprehensive lifestyle arrangements—all centered on one partner taking a controlling role while the other yields authority within negotiated boundaries.
People are drawn to power exchange for diverse reasons: the freedom found in surrender, the thrill of exercising control, the deep trust required, and the opportunity to explore aspects of themselves not expressed in everyday life. Unlike physical BDSM activities which focus on bodily sensations, D/s emphasizes psychological connection and the erotic potential of power differentials, creating experiences that many find deeply fulfilling on both emotional and sexual levels.
About the subcategory Orgasm / Sexual Control
Orgasm and sexual control practices involve deliberately managing arousal, orgasm timing, or orgasm permission between partners. These activities create heightened anticipation, extended pleasure states, and intensified release through the deliberate manipulation of sexual response and gratification.
People enjoy these practices for the intense focus they create on physical sensations, the prolonged states of arousal they can maintain, and the powerful dynamic established when one person controls another's sexual pleasure. Whether through denial, forced orgasms, or timed release, these techniques transform natural sexual responses into opportunities for deeper submission, dominance, and intensified physical experiences that many find more fulfilling than conventional sexual approaches.
All activities in the checklist:
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General
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Sex & Intimacy
- Kissing mouth (on lips)
- French kissing (with tongue)
- Kissing on body
- Massage
- Petting / Stroking Hair
- Dirty Talk
- Teasing
- Genital Stroking / Rubbing
- Fingering / Hand-jobs
- Oral Sex
- Licking (body)
- Vaginal Toys
- Vaginal Sex
- Anal Toys
- Rimming / Anal Licking
- Prostrate stimulation
- Anal Sex
- Deepthroating
- Squirting
- Breast Sex
- Tantric sex
- Phone sex
- Outdoor sex
- Sexual Body Fluids – on body
- Sexual Body Fluids – Consuming
- Double Penetration – Toys
- Double Penetration – Human
- Triple Penetration – Toys
- Fisting vaginal
- Fisting anal
- Spitting – on body
- Spitting - In mouth
- Threesome - M, M, F
- Threesome - F, F, M
- Threesome - All same gender
- Pegging
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Duration
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- Blindfolds
- Earplugs / Ear-muffs
- Masks
- Belts / Leather Straps
- Chains
- Collars
- Posture Collars
- Stocks/pillory
- Spreader Bars
- Locks
- Hoods
- Gas Masks
- Body Bags / Sleepsacks
- Vacuum Beds
- Chastity Belts / Devices
- Harnesses
- Plastic (Saran) Wrap
- Bandage / Medical Wrap
- Casts
- Single Armbinder
- Bondage Opera Gloves
- Cockrings
- Slings
- Leashes
- Straight Jackets
- Cages / Cells
- Nose Leashes
- Nose Hooks
- Tape Bondage
- Sex Machines – Handheld
- Sex Machines – Stationary
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Areas
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- Nipple Clamps – Adjustable
- Nipple Clamps – Clover
- Nipple Weights
- Canes
- Paddles
- Slappers / Straps
- Crops
- Floggers
- Single Tail Whips
- Cat-O-Nine-Tails
- Dragon Tails
- Clubs
- Violet Wands
- E-Stim Kits
- Labia Clamps
- Genital Weights
- Ball Crushers
- Scrotum Parachutes / Stretchers
- Anal Beads / Balls
- Anal Hook
- Vaginal Hook
- Animal Tail Anal Plugs
- Speculums
- Urethral Sounds
- Bells
- Strap-On Harnesses
- Feathers / Ticklers
- Claws
- Needles
- Wax
- Knives
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- Master/Mistress/slave
- Bedroom Only Control
- Day to Day Control
- 24 Hours a Day/7 Days a Week
- Total Power Exchange
- Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
- Orders
- Chastity
- Kneeling
- Marking
- Begging
- Crawling
- Erotic Dance (Private)
- Erotic Dance (Audience)
- Journal / Blogging Duty
- Body Pose / Position Protocol
- Behavior Restriction
- Eye Contact Restriction
- Sensory deprivation
- Speech Restriction / Protocol
- Harems (serving with others)
- Serving others
- Symbolic Jewellery
- Collar and Leash
- Collar (public)
- Collar (semi-private / events)
- Collar (private)
- Mono/Poly Arrangement
- Obedience
- Honorifics
- Protocols
- Protocols (High)
- Punishment Dynamic
- Reprimands
- Discipline
- Ritual
- Rules
- Training
- Discreet Public Play (less obvious to others)
- Forced Bi-Sexuality
- Being a sex slave
- Slave Positions
- Slave Auctions
- Loaned to Others for Service
- Loaned to Others for Sex
- Being prostituted
- Tattoo/Branding as Sign of Ownership
- Micromanaging
- Micromanaging (Clothing)
- Micromanaging (Food)
- Struggling / Resistance
- Escaping Bondage
- Playing together with other subs
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- Anal Plugs (Public, Under Clothes)
- Face Sitting
- Bathroom Use Control
- Chamber-pot use
- Serving as Toilet
- Genuflecting
- Cuckold Scenes
- Public Humiliation
- Bimbofication
- Blackmail
- Cum Eating
- Emasculation
- Forced Bedwetting
- Forced Nudity
- Forced Masturbation
- Forced Orgasms
- Forced Pants Wetting
- Forced Crossdressing
- Enemas
- Burping
- Poses (Exposure, Embarrassing, etc)
- Animal Play (pet, dog, horse, etc)
- Insults
- Sexual Inadequacy Humiliation
- Removal of Privacy
- Sexual (performance) Humiliation
- Slutty Clothing (Private)
- Slutty Clothing (Public)
- Slut Training
- Small Penis Humiliation
- Verbal Humiliation (Private)
- Verbal Humiliation (Public)
- Watching Bathroom Activities
- Standing in corner
- Sleeping Conditions Chosen
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- Hair Pulling
- Spanking
- Gagging
- Face Slapping
- Biting
- Nipple Torture
- Breast torture w/pins-clips, etc.
- Breast whipping
- Pussy/cunt slapping / whipping
- Genital Torture
- Punching / Beating
- Bruising
- Scratching
- Pinching
- Breath Play
- Choking – Windpipe
- Choking – Arterial
- Smothering
- Water Torture
- Trampling
- Fire Play
- Bastinado (feet torture)
- Abrasion
- Piercing
- Knife Play (non-cutting)
- Cutting
- Electric Play
- Ice / Cold Play
- Hot Wax Play
- Tickling
- Wrestling
- Dilation – Vaginal
- Dilation – Anal
- Verbal Abuse
- Branding
- Tattooing
- Enemas
- Gagging (fingers or similar means)
- Gagging During Oral
- Cupping / Suction
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- Boss / Secretary - (Employee)
- Teacher / Student
- Damsel In Distress
- Kidnapping
- Doctor - Nurse / Patient
- Parent / Child (Ex: Daddy / Daughter)
- Interrogation
- Age Regression
- Adult Baby
- Prison Scenes
- Serving as Maid
- Prostitution / Given Away
- Initiation / Ritual
- Punishment Scenes
- Religious Scenes
- Vampire Scenes
- Rape Scenes
- Puppy Play
- Cat Play
- Pony Play
- Furries
- Cosplay
- Living Doll
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- Leather
- Latex / Rubber
- PVC
- Lingerie
- Feet
- Shoes
- Heels
- Boots
- Gloves
- Smoking
- Oral Fixation
- Uniforms
- Voyeurism
- Watching videos of others
- Corsets
- Medical
- Cross Dressing
- Forced Feminization
- Strap-On Play
- Lolita
- Mature
- Fur
- Lactation
- Food Play
- Menstruation
- Being Recorded
- Exhibitionism
- Fear / Threatening Play
- Crying / Being Brought to Tears
- Abandonment
- Acrotomophilia (amputees)
- Barosmia (smells)
- Shaving
- Shibari
- Erotic Dancing
- Body Modification
- BodyBuilding
- Bukake
- Bestiality
- Examinations (physical)
- Examinations (with instruments)
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- Age Play (Sexual)
- Animal Role Play (Sexual)
- Asphyxiation
- Ball Busting
- Bare-backing
- Blackmail Fantasy
- Blood Play
- Branding
- Breath Control
- Breeding Fantasy
- Castration Fantasy
- Catheters
- CBT (Cock & Ball Torture)
- Choking
- Conditioning (Manipulation)
- Corporal "Punishment"
- Cunt Busting
- Enemas (Cleansing)
- Enemas (Pleasure)
- Enemas (Punishment)
- Enemas (Retention)
- Fear Play
- Fire Play
- Flesh Hook Suspension
- Full Body Beatings
- Gang Bang
- Gas Masks (Air Restriction)
- Genitorture
- Gun Play
- Golden Showers
- Hypnosis
- Inflation/Injections (Saline)
- Interrogations
- Knife Play
- Mind Fucks
- Needle Play
- Ravishment Play (Rape Play)
- Ravishment Play (Group)
- Pursuit & Capture (Public)
- Pursuit & Capture (Kink Camping or Similar)
- Play Piercing
- Pussy Torture
- Resistance Play
- Rough Body Play (Closed Fists)
- Rough Body Play (Kicking)
- Scat
- Sleep Deprivation
- Stress Positions
- Take Down Play
- Tasers/Stun Guns
- Urethral Sounding
- Urine Consumption
- Waterboarding
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Recordings
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About you
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Relevant play info
- Sexual orientation
- Do you use anti-conception? If so which?
- What are your 'safer sex' barrier preferences? (condoms, gloves, etc)
- Do you have any STD's or other infectious/transferable diseases at the moment?
- Date & type of last STD test
- Any relevant medical conditions?
- Any physical or mental limitations?
- Phobias or fears:
- Diet preferences
- Favorite during session / aftercare snacks :)
- Safe Word (verbal)
- Safe Sign (non-verbal)
- Penetration ok
- No hit zone(s), if any
- Marks and bruises ok?
- No marks zone(s), if any
- BDSM-test.org result-link
- FetLife profile link
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Your body
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Words & Phrases
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Context
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