BDSMchecklist.com

Discover & share your kinks

Whether you're an experienced enthusiast or just BDSM-curious, this comprehensive BDSM checklist is for you.

"I've discovered so many new kinks I never knew I was into!"

"This made it easy to negotiate scenes with my play partner.
We could go much deeper than with other partners before"

"Took me hours to fill out... But so worth it!"

"Made my sub fill out the checklist for me.
Helps me a lot to understand her mind and gave me tons of new ideas for play."

What is a BDSM Checklist?

Think of it as a menu or catalog of potential activities and dynamics within BDSM. It's not a test or something you need to complete or have experience with. It is not going to give you a score at the end telling you you’re X% submissive or Y% Rope bunny (if you’re looking for that - try bdsmtest.org).

It is a way to explore all possibilities within the realm of BDSM and understand and explore your personal interests and boundaries. What turns you on? What are your hard limits? You’re probably going to encounter things you’ve never heard before, or that are totally out of your comfort zone. Fun!

Why use a BDSM checklist?

Self-Discovery
This checklist helps you understand yourself better by letting you explore what you like, dislike, or are curious about within BDSM activities. It's a journey of self-discovery, helping you understand your own desires, limits, and interests.
Communication Tool
It's a fantastic tool for communicating with a partner or potential partner(s). It provides a structured framework to discuss desires, interests, and boundaries in a safe and clear way. This helps establish consent and ensures everyone involved is comfortable and enthusiastic about what's happening.
Setting Boundaries
BDSM involves exploring power dynamics and potentially challenging limits. This checklist helps establish clear "hard limits" (things you absolutely do not want to do) and "soft limits" (things you might be hesitant about but potentially open to under certain conditions or with discussion). This is crucial for safe and sane exploration.
Exploring Roles
The checklist helps clarify whether you lean towards being more dominant (giving/controlling) or submissive (receiving/following), or if you enjoy switching roles (switch).
Understanding Nuances
It breaks down BDSM into categories like Bondage (restraint), Discipline (rules and consequences), D/s (Dominance/submission power dynamics), Sadomasochism (pleasure from giving/receiving pain), Role Play, Fetishes (strong fascinations), and Taboo/Edge Play (pushing boundaries). This helps understand the diverse aspects of BDSM and lets you experience that the same activity in a different context might totally (not) work for you.
Facilitating Negotiation
When used with a partner, it helps negotiate activities and establish clear boundaries for play. It ensures both partners are on the same page about what they're comfortable with and interested in exploring. This helps you to dive in and enjoy - knowing that you know your partner much better than before.
Tracking Experience and Interest
The checklist allows you to track your experience level with different activities and rate your level of interest. This can help you identify areas you want to explore further or revisit.

What makes this BDSM checklist special?

It is very complete (having more than 500 activities) but at the same time makes it easy to breeze past what doesn’t interest you. Focussing on what does turn you on.
You can indicate if you only enjoy certain activities/dynamics just as a fantasy (talk only) without actually doing them physically. Cause the mind is the hottest sex-organ of all.
This checklist lets you indicate separate giving/receiving answers for each activity. No BDSM-activity is inherently dominant or submissive. You be your own Kinkster.
The checklist explains all activities in detail and/or gives you a quick-search link to google. Go deep down the rabbit hole and discover kinks you never knew existed.
Filling a BDSM-checklist takes a long time… We know from personal experience ;-) We made it easy to use on your mobile phone. So you can do it bit by bit, where-ever you are.
We’ve added a section focussed on relevant info for playing together, including safety & aftercare. But importantly also about you and your body. Taking inspiration from the book ‘come as you are’ by Emily Nagoski you can answer/share what parts of your body give positive vibes, and which negative. Which words and phrases work well for you, or turn you off/trigger you instantly. And what context you need to be able to feel free in play and lose yourself in it.